It depends on the cat. If they are handled gently a lot while still with their mom that helps. If you rub their big paw pad gently (they will spread their feet automatically), when they are kittens, they will allow you to touch their paws when they get older, so you can clip their nails and don't have to (SHOULDN'T) get them de-clawed. It is all about trust and communication early on.

If a cat is an asshole, it is better to put it down then to let it loose.